Have you found that the past year has forced you to cleanse your life?
For me personally I have really noticed the shift. Once COVID hit, people seemed to go into survival mode. I had many staff, clients and friends who left, returned home or I completely did not hear from. Some people I have had in my life for many, many years. At first I found it very upsetting. I took it personally like it had something to do with me. I then realized it is almost as if those people who had been unhappy or unsure of their journey, took this opportunity to exit and start again. Start fresh. I guess in my own way I was doing it too.
It got me thinking about attachment, to people and things. I still struggle with the fact that nothing stays the same, we are constantly evolving and the only certainty in life is change.
Therefore, as humans we must learn to let go. Forgive, forget and move on.
There is actually something quite freeing about this. You literally need to ask yourself this question, “Is this serving me?” If not, then let it go.
Here are some examples of areas in your life where you can ask yourself that question:
Spring clean: I love a good spring clean of my clothes and household items, I try and do this at least twice a year. I recommend you go through your wardrobe one item at a time, if you haven’t worn it or used it in the past 6 months, chances are you won’t wear it again. Acknowledge that it is not serving you and release it. Make a big pile and take it to charity.
Take note of how others make you feel: If you have that one friend who every time you are around them you come away feeling undervalued, or disrespected, then maybe it’s time to let go of that friendship. We all grow and change over the years. Perhaps your interests have changed, or your paths are taking you in different directions. Its ok to let that friendship go if it is not serving you. People come in and out of our lives for a reason, some for a day, some for years. Learn from them and then let them go.
Chase your dreams: If you truly dislike your job, and are miserable, then maybe it’s time to search for a new job. I know we all need to earn a living and times are tough right now, but I do believe that you should be happy in your work. Look at ways you can either improve your working environment, or find a way out and into something that you enjoy. Life is too short to be unhappy.
Don’t be afraid to be alone: Often we stay in an unhappy relationship because we are terrified to be on our own. To have to start again, be independent again and fend for ourselves. You should be in a loving, supportive partnership with both parties being equal. If you don’t feel these things, then it’s time to reassess. Would you be happier on your own, is this relationship serving you? If the answer is no, then it is time to make some changes. One of my favorite books for those who struggle with codependency is “The language of letting go” By Melody Beattie