I used to say that I was a very confident person and had high self-esteem and self-worth.
For some reason last year, I lost that connection to self. I don’t know if it was because I was exhausted and sleep deprived from having a baby, or because I had to close my studio’s due to COVID, and had lost my identity and purpose. Or if I had become so use to valuing myself on the work I did rather than the person I was. At the end of last year, I felt down and defeated, and my self worth was at an all-time low.
I had to dig deep and do the work. Here is what I learnt.
Determining your self worth is not about how good you look in a bikini, not about how many Instagram followers you have, nor how much money you make or how popular you are. Self-worth is about so much more than the above, it’s about compassion and kindness to yourself and others.
Do you truly value yourself? Do you think you are worthy?
Here are some of my favorite ways to build your self worth:
Use positive affirmations. The mind believes what you tell it, replace that negative self- talk with positive self-talk, and your mind will start to believe it.
Be kind to yourself. If you wouldn’t speak to your friend like that, why would you speak to yourself like that. See yourself how others see you, and give yourself that unconditional love that others give to you.
Do activities that you enjoy. Working out is a great activity that will satisfy you mentally and physically, which will make you feel good and worthwhile.
Set boundaries. Its ok to say no. be strong and stand up for yourself and identify what you will or will not do.
Set goals for yourself. Setting small achievable goals that you can reach and check off. Each goal will make you proud and build confidence.