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Simone De La Rue

Social Media Is Not Always Reality!

Let’s be honest, the images and video’s people are sharing on social media are not always the true reality of their lives. It is not often that people share their deepest darkest truths. (You will not catch me crying on my posts)

We are now viewing people’s lives through a filter. There are Apps that literally change the shape of your face, and editing tools that give you the power to alter your waist and bust size.

This is nothing new, as editorial magazines have been doing it for years. However, these are now in the hands of young women who are so impressionable. It breaks my heart to think that these young women are comparing their image to those who have been photo shopped and made to look “perfect.” This can be so damaging on their self- esteem and worth.

I have a love hate relationship with social media.

I use it as a tool to connect with my audience, and it has been very useful during COVID when my studios have been closed. However, it feels like we are all now trying desperately to keep up with the ever changing trends. It has become a full time job to produce content.


Everyone is now an “expert” in their field sharing everything from diet and exercises to fashion and relationship tips. Once again, I worry about the information young teens are taking as gospel because their favourite influencer endorsed it.

So how do we find a healthy balance when it comes to social media? And how do we encourage those who are easily influenced to do the same?

Here are some things I like to do to keep social media under control in my house:

Disclaimer: I am not claiming to be an expert on the effects of social media on our mental health and well-being. I am just expressing my thoughts on the matter. (Although you do not need to be a rocket scientist to see or feel the damage it can cause)

  1. Take a healthy break from your phone. Whether it is an hour or a day. Place it out of sight, so you are not tempted to pick it up.

  2. Only follow people who have a positive message and leave you feeling happy after viewing their content.

  3. Call a friend and ask how their day was rather than viewing their life through their stories.

  4. Do not look at likes or comments, people have a lot of spare time on their hands and can write things that can be very hurtful, don’t let them get you down.

  5. Always remember that people’s lives are not always as fabulous at they portray. Try not to make a comparison to anyone else’s life.

  6. Put your device away and practice gratitude for what you have. Acknowledge that you are exactly where you need to be right now.


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Brittany Brown
Brittany Brown
Jul 26, 2021

I love this. I have actually been thinking and pondering ditching social media for a season… to see what comes up and break the cycle of feeling like I always need to be seen or show up. I wonder what would happen if I showed up for my local community in the way I feel I need to show up on social. What powerful changes could happen if I step back and shut down all the voices and how much more time and free space would I have. Thank you for sharing this perspective. Your one of my favs! So grateful for your voice in my emails.

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